oh yes, since everyone's talking about foodhunt, lets talk about foodhunt! last yr, at this time, i think i was still hoping to join foodhunt.. and junyue asked me on msn w/o knowing that i had done foodhunt the previous year as well.. he was damn shocked after he knew that i was an o comm member before.. but the new o comm allowed me to make more friends! btw, i want to just mention that i do not wish to be a facilitator! >< haha.. dont kill me folks.. bt yes, i totally miss nus peeps!! am glad that exams are over for everyone and its time for meet-ups again!!! we can catch up, ketchup! ;)
HAPPY BIRTHDAY DORIS LEE PEI TING!!!!!!!!!
i will write more if i can think of somemore.. just that, i am kinda freezing now.. so... yes.. tata! maybe tmr after the egm, i will be more inspired!
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went to sispec twice this week... haha.. was... erm.. interesting.. but i prefer tekong.. walking around was no joke.. felt dehydrated quite often... the instructors were pretty funny, they kept telling me not to take pictures... then i told them my company and they apologised.. ho hum.. so funny...
apparently zl saw me at sispec... never say hi though.. so pro that guy...
jerine and i went shopping after sispec on tues... but, we didnt buy anything, nth that appealed.. ho hum... so yes, we went home empty handed! hm.....
after working, public hols are much more appreciated.. pls, can we have more of them??? =D
apparently zl saw me at sispec... never say hi though.. so pro that guy...
jerine and i went shopping after sispec on tues... but, we didnt buy anything, nth that appealed.. ho hum... so yes, we went home empty handed! hm.....
after working, public hols are much more appreciated.. pls, can we have more of them??? =D
haha.. didnt go out this week, therefore nth much to blog about.. mainly stayed in office as well... only interesting thing was lunch actually popping by for a discussion, other than that, nothing much.. heh...
was watching 星光帮5，and concluded that 孙子佑 is so cute for crying when his good friend was eliminated... oh man, wanted to shed a tear for them as well.. can sense or rather feel their "brotherhood".... SO SAD!!!!
finished reading this book: "think like a man, act like a lady" (sth like that!) fascinating book.. i know that books usually preach theories and everyone differs as everyone is different.. but sometimes it is really hard to deny that one of the same gender tend to behave in a similar way! therefore it was entertaining! =)
getting worse at bejeweled blitz.. i think my eyes are too tired of staring at a com screen.. haha.. oh well... i wish i could get a laptop at work... =X need to figure out how to reply my emails on monday.. =)
ok, enough ramblings... shopping!!!!
was watching 星光帮5，and concluded that 孙子佑 is so cute for crying when his good friend was eliminated... oh man, wanted to shed a tear for them as well.. can sense or rather feel their "brotherhood".... SO SAD!!!!
finished reading this book: "think like a man, act like a lady" (sth like that!) fascinating book.. i know that books usually preach theories and everyone differs as everyone is different.. but sometimes it is really hard to deny that one of the same gender tend to behave in a similar way! therefore it was entertaining! =)
getting worse at bejeweled blitz.. i think my eyes are too tired of staring at a com screen.. haha.. oh well... i wish i could get a laptop at work... =X need to figure out how to reply my emails on monday.. =)
ok, enough ramblings... shopping!!!!
was wandering around west mall on monday... and guess who i bumped into???!!!
JASMINE AND EVELYN!!!! haha.. talk about super coincidental... was waiting for my sis so that i could go buy cup noodles for dinner with her and some old chang kee (yes, completely no nutrients and lack nutritional value)... bumped into them! sat down at mos burger with them for a while, was nice just chatting about nothing much actually.. just catching up about some PS peeps and commenting about the food at MOS. eve was eating this chicken thing that looked scrumptious! someday, i will BUY IT!!! a little on the ex side though, but it is ok.. will still try it!
am in a mini dilemma. cant decide if i should reply some email... wrong signals? bleh... ok, ignore this part...
i finally met up with my dear charlyn on thurs!!!! haha.. she's super pretty! totally like her outfit.. we were both lamenting the fact that the number of guys seems to have dwindled drastically after sec school.. wahaha.. also, we were being amazed at the couples who are still together!! fhs has so many la.. seriously, perhaps, the gov should go do some research.. i swear that there's got to be more than 10 couples who are still tgt today and they were tgt since sec school!!! goodness... it is like a love breeding ground.. totally agree with charlyn that now that we are grown up, when we reflect on some things that we did in sec school, it seems ridiculous and childish.. haha.. but then again, those were fun times la.. =) catching up on gossip is always fun! harvard came to join us about halfway.. his lame excuse was that he could drive us home.. but oh well... it was nice of him to do that la.. =) overall, it was a great night! =)
decorated the christmas tree with jerine and steph in office, i really think its pretty nice looking! =)
shopping itch is back... sigh...
JASMINE AND EVELYN!!!! haha.. talk about super coincidental... was waiting for my sis so that i could go buy cup noodles for dinner with her and some old chang kee (yes, completely no nutrients and lack nutritional value)... bumped into them! sat down at mos burger with them for a while, was nice just chatting about nothing much actually.. just catching up about some PS peeps and commenting about the food at MOS. eve was eating this chicken thing that looked scrumptious! someday, i will BUY IT!!! a little on the ex side though, but it is ok.. will still try it!
am in a mini dilemma. cant decide if i should reply some email... wrong signals? bleh... ok, ignore this part...
i finally met up with my dear charlyn on thurs!!!! haha.. she's super pretty! totally like her outfit.. we were both lamenting the fact that the number of guys seems to have dwindled drastically after sec school.. wahaha.. also, we were being amazed at the couples who are still together!! fhs has so many la.. seriously, perhaps, the gov should go do some research.. i swear that there's got to be more than 10 couples who are still tgt today and they were tgt since sec school!!! goodness... it is like a love breeding ground.. totally agree with charlyn that now that we are grown up, when we reflect on some things that we did in sec school, it seems ridiculous and childish.. haha.. but then again, those were fun times la.. =) catching up on gossip is always fun! harvard came to join us about halfway.. his lame excuse was that he could drive us home.. but oh well... it was nice of him to do that la.. =) overall, it was a great night! =)
decorated the christmas tree with jerine and steph in office, i really think its pretty nice looking! =)
shopping itch is back... sigh...
Article by Nicholas Fang (Weekend Voices, Today, 7 Nov 2009)
Do nice guys really finish last?
It seems the case - but do they finish last because or in spite of their personality?
by nickfang@mediacorp.com.sg Nicholas Fang nickfang@mediacorp.com.sg 05:55 AM Nov 07, 2009The idea that nice guys finish last, in life and affairs of the heart, is nothing new.
That old adage has been repeated to me since I was a young lad by people ranging from my swimming coach to mentors at work.
The point was that, if you wanted to get ahead, you had to be a little mean, a little ruthless, and do away with the compassion for the other guy. After all, life is a race and the guy in second place is the first loser.
I never really bought into that view, as I am convinced there is always time to be a decent human being as we make our way through life. But when it comes to love and relationships, I've personally seen many examples which seem to bear out the cliche.
(Incidentally, credit for coming up with the phrase is given to former Major League Baseball manager Leo Durocher. Note that I'm not comparing love to baseball - although I have struck out numerous times, and only made it to third base on rare occasions.)
I know of many friends, who most would classify as "good guys", who have suffered time and again at the hands of love.
I'm sure you know the type: Sweet, unassuming guys with nary a mean bone in their bodies, who do the most thoughtful things for the objects of their affection, only to see said objects swept off their feet by the proverbial "bad boys" who treat them with far less consideration.
While this might sound like a (bad) teen movie from the 1980s, I've seen it happen in real life.
Take my friend Tony. A nice dude, caring, affectionate, although occasionally prone to coming on a bit strong with the girls he likes: Heart stomped on by almost every girl he has met.
Or another mate, let's call him Hut. Another sterling chap, hardworking, successful at work, earnest and willing to go the extra mile for the special girl: Consistently foiled in love.
And the list goes on.
Personally, I've never been able to fathom the rationale behind this penchant for badness. I've heard all the explanations: The thrill of being with someone exuding an aura of danger and edginess, and how nice guys tend to be "too safe" and boring. Frankly, that's always struck me as being a slightly juvenile perspective.
I asked a female friend, let's call her Penny, a sensible girl in her mid-20s, for her views on the matter. And she said that the heart of the problem could lie in the definitions being used.
"In my experience, it's not so much guys who are nice who lose out. It's more of the guys who think that being nice means not having to play the game that don't get ahead."
She explained that "playing the game" meant turning on the charm and charisma, and giving clear signals that your intentions extended beyond the purely platonic.
"Too many guys who see themselves as being nice feel that that's all that is needed, and they don't bother to make it clear what they feel or want in the relationship," she said.
This then has the undesirable effect of leading them down the "friends" route, from which it is virtually impossible to return to rejoin the path to becoming "lovers".
So, her point is that nice guys don't come in last because they're nice. They come in last because they're not savvy enough to play the game to their advantage.
At heart, I seriously doubt anyone is sado-masochistic enough to seek out a truly bad individual as a partner. It's just that the good boys never market themselves well enough as viable options in the search for love.
Maybe us guys shouldn't limit ourselves to being either "nice" or "bad", but find that comfort zone where we can truly be ourselves, and let the best parts of our characters and personalities shine through.
Perhaps that will allow us to enjoy the journey, without worrying about our finishing positions. ¢
The writer is the business editor at Channel NewsAsia.
Totally agree with the parts in bold... Sometimes, its not that girls do not like nice guys... girls like nice guys alright, but as mentioned, sometimes, being merely nice is not enough... As i discussed with Natalie and Jasmine before (and probably some others), some guy might meet ALL the criteria that one might look for in a bf YET attraction is EVERYTHING at the same time. Criteria is just half, whether a girl is attracted to a guy might depend on plenty of other factors... Nice is not all...
The above is once again random... haha!!
Anw, finally met up with the FUNNIES!!! so happy.. was an entertaining night with lines being drawn and eve's funny comments as usual. Hope that they all take care of themselves and remember to get enough rest! Doris, YES YOU!!! I AM TALKING ABOUT YOU!!! dont stress, rmb to chill and relax sometime ya? =) HUGS ALL OF YOU!!!! <3
P.S Just wanted to say that I am not understanding how does ALUMmail work.... I cant register!!! someone help me............................................ or rather teach me..............................
Do nice guys really finish last?
It seems the case - but do they finish last because or in spite of their personality?
by nickfang@mediacorp.com.sg Nicholas Fang nickfang@mediacorp.com.sg 05:55 AM Nov 07, 2009The idea that nice guys finish last, in life and affairs of the heart, is nothing new.
That old adage has been repeated to me since I was a young lad by people ranging from my swimming coach to mentors at work.
The point was that, if you wanted to get ahead, you had to be a little mean, a little ruthless, and do away with the compassion for the other guy. After all, life is a race and the guy in second place is the first loser.
I never really bought into that view, as I am convinced there is always time to be a decent human being as we make our way through life. But when it comes to love and relationships, I've personally seen many examples which seem to bear out the cliche.
(Incidentally, credit for coming up with the phrase is given to former Major League Baseball manager Leo Durocher. Note that I'm not comparing love to baseball - although I have struck out numerous times, and only made it to third base on rare occasions.)
I know of many friends, who most would classify as "good guys", who have suffered time and again at the hands of love.
I'm sure you know the type: Sweet, unassuming guys with nary a mean bone in their bodies, who do the most thoughtful things for the objects of their affection, only to see said objects swept off their feet by the proverbial "bad boys" who treat them with far less consideration.
While this might sound like a (bad) teen movie from the 1980s, I've seen it happen in real life.
Take my friend Tony. A nice dude, caring, affectionate, although occasionally prone to coming on a bit strong with the girls he likes: Heart stomped on by almost every girl he has met.
Or another mate, let's call him Hut. Another sterling chap, hardworking, successful at work, earnest and willing to go the extra mile for the special girl: Consistently foiled in love.
And the list goes on.
Personally, I've never been able to fathom the rationale behind this penchant for badness. I've heard all the explanations: The thrill of being with someone exuding an aura of danger and edginess, and how nice guys tend to be "too safe" and boring. Frankly, that's always struck me as being a slightly juvenile perspective.
I asked a female friend, let's call her Penny, a sensible girl in her mid-20s, for her views on the matter. And she said that the heart of the problem could lie in the definitions being used.
"In my experience, it's not so much guys who are nice who lose out. It's more of the guys who think that being nice means not having to play the game that don't get ahead."
She explained that "playing the game" meant turning on the charm and charisma, and giving clear signals that your intentions extended beyond the purely platonic.
"Too many guys who see themselves as being nice feel that that's all that is needed, and they don't bother to make it clear what they feel or want in the relationship," she said.
This then has the undesirable effect of leading them down the "friends" route, from which it is virtually impossible to return to rejoin the path to becoming "lovers".
So, her point is that nice guys don't come in last because they're nice. They come in last because they're not savvy enough to play the game to their advantage.
At heart, I seriously doubt anyone is sado-masochistic enough to seek out a truly bad individual as a partner. It's just that the good boys never market themselves well enough as viable options in the search for love.
Maybe us guys shouldn't limit ourselves to being either "nice" or "bad", but find that comfort zone where we can truly be ourselves, and let the best parts of our characters and personalities shine through.
Perhaps that will allow us to enjoy the journey, without worrying about our finishing positions. ¢
The writer is the business editor at Channel NewsAsia.
Totally agree with the parts in bold... Sometimes, its not that girls do not like nice guys... girls like nice guys alright, but as mentioned, sometimes, being merely nice is not enough... As i discussed with Natalie and Jasmine before (and probably some others), some guy might meet ALL the criteria that one might look for in a bf YET attraction is EVERYTHING at the same time. Criteria is just half, whether a girl is attracted to a guy might depend on plenty of other factors... Nice is not all...
The above is once again random... haha!!
Anw, finally met up with the FUNNIES!!! so happy.. was an entertaining night with lines being drawn and eve's funny comments as usual. Hope that they all take care of themselves and remember to get enough rest! Doris, YES YOU!!! I AM TALKING ABOUT YOU!!! dont stress, rmb to chill and relax sometime ya? =) HUGS ALL OF YOU!!!! <3
P.S Just wanted to say that I am not understanding how does ALUMmail work.... I cant register!!! someone help me............................................ or rather teach me..............................
now now the title is a good question since i cant rmb anything that i have done that is special...
hm... lets do bimbotic stuff....
List of Stuff that I am lusting after:
1. a new bag (mine is tearing apart AND the one i bought online does not look as nice than in the pic, =X)
2. the 101 guo yu chinese songs
3. Men in White (book)
4. wedges (cuz they look nicer with sun dresses- pump like ones)
5. canvas shoes - i foresee myself going on visits quite regularly in the near future, canvas shoes would be a good investment, my current pair is.. dirty... heh...
6. Sims City 4- saw it at challenger, had like 5games inside... hur hur...
oh yes, i am off on monday!!! long weekend for me..... so fun!! haha.. =)
thats all folks! what a meaningless post...
oh yes, to make this post a little more intellectual... i read somewhere that the US is spending/has spent billions (i think it was $17.2 billion, not too sure) on building embassies and overseas posts since 1998... cant help but think the money could be better spent on other stuff.. it only makes sense if most of them are spread out.. but from what i understand, its mostly in particular parts of the world. ho hum... the article also mentioned something along the lines that US still acts like a coloniser, trying to colonise other smaller nations... in other forms(not like that of the past)... the same article mentioned the irony of US embassies and how they are heavily fortified when the purpose of embassies in part, is to get closer to the people in the foreign countries. Heavy fortifications kinda defeat the purpose huh? Some stuff to chew on... munch munch... (click on title for link to article) =)
oh yes, btw, i think i just spent $90 plus on clothes.. needs to curb shopping impulse.. but such things are always rather sudden huh... er, thats kinda the reason they are called impulse.. ok, should stop rambling.. totally showing bimbotic side! see ya my dears...
hm... lets do bimbotic stuff....
List of Stuff that I am lusting after:
1. a new bag (mine is tearing apart AND the one i bought online does not look as nice than in the pic, =X)
2. the 101 guo yu chinese songs
3. Men in White (book)
4. wedges (cuz they look nicer with sun dresses- pump like ones)
5. canvas shoes - i foresee myself going on visits quite regularly in the near future, canvas shoes would be a good investment, my current pair is.. dirty... heh...
6. Sims City 4- saw it at challenger, had like 5games inside... hur hur...
oh yes, i am off on monday!!! long weekend for me..... so fun!! haha.. =)
thats all folks! what a meaningless post...
oh yes, to make this post a little more intellectual... i read somewhere that the US is spending/has spent billions (i think it was $17.2 billion, not too sure) on building embassies and overseas posts since 1998... cant help but think the money could be better spent on other stuff.. it only makes sense if most of them are spread out.. but from what i understand, its mostly in particular parts of the world. ho hum... the article also mentioned something along the lines that US still acts like a coloniser, trying to colonise other smaller nations... in other forms(not like that of the past)... the same article mentioned the irony of US embassies and how they are heavily fortified when the purpose of embassies in part, is to get closer to the people in the foreign countries. Heavy fortifications kinda defeat the purpose huh? Some stuff to chew on... munch munch... (click on title for link to article) =)
oh yes, btw, i think i just spent $90 plus on clothes.. needs to curb shopping impulse.. but such things are always rather sudden huh... er, thats kinda the reason they are called impulse.. ok, should stop rambling.. totally showing bimbotic side! see ya my dears...
well well.. lets see... this week has been... tiring.. but i guess interesting to some extent?
monday: went to Tiong Bahru Plaza with jia yi... bought myself a pluto handphone holder for my table and a forever friends mouse pad, also for my table! table being the one in office... haha! so happy.. My OA came about a week plus.. so i spent monday cleaning my desk.. the com had so much dust, and so did my table actually... haha.. oh well.. now my desk looks homelier.. =) needs to think of more ways to make it even more cosy.. beams..
wed: went BMTC for the second time.. had to walk more this time.. ho hum.. =X but ya, super awkward whenever i had to walk past the dudes marching around. >< interesting though that i now know how it looks like etc.. oh well..
thurs: went to see a vendor along bt timah.. and i met Wen Hui's gf! small small world.. then was late to meet a wedding couple at the chalet, felt so bad... =(
sat: thats today!!! omg.. i have so much to say about today.. attended an AGM. goodness... i swear that there should be rules about proxies.. its like just because one person holds a lot of proxies, no matter however we voted during the AGM did not matter. What is the point in voting if one person's decision at the meeting would be majority decision no matter what. for example, if the attendance was 60, and yet one person holds 100 shares, even if the 60 voted against a resolution and that ONE person voted for, the people present would be outvoted just because THAT person holds majority of the votes??? Then you might as well not call for the AGM huh? some rules need to be reviewed. i was thinking that the entire AGM should be videoed and placed somewhere so that residents actually know what is going on instead of entrusting their votes to someone to vote for them? doesnt it make sense why in elections, everyone is entitled to have only ONE vote?? fed up, could sense the frustration at the meeting.. this is one of the points in time when you cant help but think that theory is stupid and does not support the practice. Laws are laws, but they FACILITATE people to get their way even if the way is NONSENSICAL. Simple majority may be effective in some circumstances, yet today was a classic example of a minority deciding for a majority in a "legalised" manner. Do those people that allowed him to be their proxy actually KNOW what resolutions he was going to support? Do they know how he is actually like? I have NEVER heard of REDUCING the number of committee members BASED on the "fact" that it is troublesome to have more people in a committee just because the more people there are, the harder it is to find a common time to have a meeting. then, why not have some organization? ASK, when people are free and fix a time based on that! it was obvious why he chose the final number, because he had that exact number of nominees to form the council. This was just all too obvious when we came to nominating council members. great................................................. and you wonder why pple dont bother to turn up at AGMs... when you feel that the result would be the same no matter whether you turn up or not, there is no point then!
monday: went to Tiong Bahru Plaza with jia yi... bought myself a pluto handphone holder for my table and a forever friends mouse pad, also for my table! table being the one in office... haha! so happy.. My OA came about a week plus.. so i spent monday cleaning my desk.. the com had so much dust, and so did my table actually... haha.. oh well.. now my desk looks homelier.. =) needs to think of more ways to make it even more cosy.. beams..
wed: went BMTC for the second time.. had to walk more this time.. ho hum.. =X but ya, super awkward whenever i had to walk past the dudes marching around. >< interesting though that i now know how it looks like etc.. oh well..
thurs: went to see a vendor along bt timah.. and i met Wen Hui's gf! small small world.. then was late to meet a wedding couple at the chalet, felt so bad... =(
sat: thats today!!! omg.. i have so much to say about today.. attended an AGM. goodness... i swear that there should be rules about proxies.. its like just because one person holds a lot of proxies, no matter however we voted during the AGM did not matter. What is the point in voting if one person's decision at the meeting would be majority decision no matter what. for example, if the attendance was 60, and yet one person holds 100 shares, even if the 60 voted against a resolution and that ONE person voted for, the people present would be outvoted just because THAT person holds majority of the votes??? Then you might as well not call for the AGM huh? some rules need to be reviewed. i was thinking that the entire AGM should be videoed and placed somewhere so that residents actually know what is going on instead of entrusting their votes to someone to vote for them? doesnt it make sense why in elections, everyone is entitled to have only ONE vote?? fed up, could sense the frustration at the meeting.. this is one of the points in time when you cant help but think that theory is stupid and does not support the practice. Laws are laws, but they FACILITATE people to get their way even if the way is NONSENSICAL. Simple majority may be effective in some circumstances, yet today was a classic example of a minority deciding for a majority in a "legalised" manner. Do those people that allowed him to be their proxy actually KNOW what resolutions he was going to support? Do they know how he is actually like? I have NEVER heard of REDUCING the number of committee members BASED on the "fact" that it is troublesome to have more people in a committee just because the more people there are, the harder it is to find a common time to have a meeting. then, why not have some organization? ASK, when people are free and fix a time based on that! it was obvious why he chose the final number, because he had that exact number of nominees to form the council. This was just all too obvious when we came to nominating council members. great................................................. and you wonder why pple dont bother to turn up at AGMs... when you feel that the result would be the same no matter whether you turn up or not, there is no point then!
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